Why Being Single is Okay
Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day happily and let your Ever After work itself out. My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude.
Being Single was the Best Conscious Choice I Ever Made
Being single can provide a valuable opportunity to learn about your likes/dislikes, embrace your authentic self, and explore hobbies or activities you’ve been itching to try. You’ll learn to value your freedom, make decisions for yourself, and become more accountable for your choices, actions, and goals. People who can make their own choices and choose when and how they connect with other people develop their own ‘inner strength’. It’s important to Remember: No partner “completes” you—you need to be a whole, happy person on your own before sharing your life with someone else.
How do you enjoy being single?
Spoiler alert: There’s no prescription for loving single life. Just live the life you want to live. The best part of not having to share your life with someone is that you can do all the things that fulfill you. And when you're prioritizing your friendships, making time for new hobbies, and keeping yourself healthy and fit, how can you not enjoy yourself?
That doesn't mean you'll be happy 100 percent of the time. The ability to be on your own without becoming lonely is a skill. It takes time and practice. But it is one of the greatest learnings a single person accomplish.
Is being single better than being in a relationship?
That’s a trick question, because of course there’s no right answer. With either choice, there are advantages and drawbacks, so this depends on what your current priorities as well as values are. Many people fall into the trap of listening to what society or others think is best for them rather than listening to themselves when it comes to making this choice, if you’re happy being single, don’t change that just because you’re experiencing societal pressure to be in a relationship. If your current relationship isn’t making you happy, don’t stay because you feel like you have to be paired up. And if you love the idea of being in a committed partnership, by all means, find your person.
You’ve taken the time to work on yourself
Being single by choice isn’t always inspired by heartbreak or loss of hope in the opposite sex. Sometimes we’re single by choice because we decide that we want this time, to ourselves, for ourselves. We know it’s the best way to skyrocket our growth. When you’re single, there’s the misconception that you’re either heartbroken, have “issues” to deal with, are “just waiting” for the right person to come along or are actively dating to try to find them. It’s as though you can’t just be single, without either SEARCHING, or there being SOMETHING seriously wrong with you.
You’re embracing all of life’s opportunities
Being single is a freakin’ good thing and you sure as hell know it. You’re living life to the full, saying yes to everything and doing things on your terms. Self-affirmations aren’t limited to your auntie’s inspirational Live, Laugh, Love fridge magnets; they’re actually a great way to remind yourself of your strengths and attributes. It’s not some woo-woo theory, either — there’s real-life science behind the benefits of talking yourself up. Self-affirmations can actually help you to increase your confidence, overcome bad habits, be more productive, and nip negative feelings in the bud before they can take hold. Try to work some positive one-on-one time into your daily routine – whether you spend it speaking to yourself in the mirror, or meditating on some self-loving mantras while out in nature.
You’re strengthening your friendships
Whether online or in real life, our friendships are a super-important part of building community and a sense of connection. Focusing on your relationships with close friends can be a nice way of reminding yourself that ‘romantic’ isn’t the only kind of love – and that a solid friendship can be just as enduring, special and meaningful as any long-term partnership. At the end of the day, our culture isn’t about to stop celebrating romance, but you can choose to not let this influence how you feel in your day-to-day life. You can be happy and fulfilled, regardless of your relationship status – and you deserve nothing less.
“Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.”