Lessons I Learned Throughout My Journey
Change is the only permanent thing in this life, and things can get easier when we learn to accept that and let go of our expectations, as controlling things that no longer serve us is the main cause of unhappiness for me. Throughout my life I have gone through so many phases from heartbreaks, business ventures, and many more. I have strived to live my life to the fullest and being able to share to everyone the lessons I have learned is something I have been wanting to do in such a long time. My main goal is to be as transparent as I can be.
Pure hearts will always win
You must be able to understand that giving does not equate to taking away from all the good you already have built inside you. I believe in loving each and every person you come into contact with. You have the opportunity to leave an impact on everyone you meet, so why not do so. Each of us have so much to offer in so many different areas; it is the beauty in having differences. Where you lack, someone is there to provide. Sometimes you encounter people that rub you the wrong way. Sometimes you come across people who tear you down, discourage you, and fail to realize your beautiful soul. But this isn’t a reason to stop loving. In situations like these, you have to rise above. You have to reach into your heart and find compassion for their suffering. Destroy your ego and have a good heart.
You really can't make someone love you back by loving them more.
It hurts to let go, but sometimes it hurts more to hold on. I spent every breathing moment consumed with a man, unable to listen to those who watched me struggle. When we’re deep into something it’s hard to see clearly and to hear advice from others. It’s hard to focus on a solution when we are consumed with the problem. It’s an uphill battle where there’s nothing waiting for you at the top. A marathon with no one else at the finish line. Loving someone, really truly loving someone, who cannot and will not love you back isn’t something that will make you stronger. It can teach you a lot of things, but make you stronger? Not really. No matter which way you paint it, whatever beautiful embellishment you try to put onto your own cliché unrequited love, there’s not really a life lesson to take away from the situation.
You won't have one purpose and passion. It always changes.
Don’t limit yourself to one passion if you want a full life. When you are truly passionate about something, you feel compelled to accomplish your goals. There is this internal drive that becomes hard to ignore. Failing is not an option, and you will do any amount of work to ensure your success. If you are still searching for the passion that will lead you to your dream career, don’t get caught up in the process that you forget to experience things. Your passion might surprise you and come along when you stop searching. We can not only be about who we are in a professional sense. Just like you wouldn’t only do what your day job is, you need to invest time in the other things you like to do. Life is about balance, and that is the reason you shouldn’t only focus on passions that grow your professional life.
We play many characters in this lifetime.
When it’s time to let go of the first one that you’re playing, just let it go and embrace the next one. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary; otherwise, they wouldn't be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act. Life is like a drama. It contains many happy, angry, sad and bitter scenes. Every character has his own role and apart to play in the drama. In our daily life, we cry, smile and laugh. The characters in a drama can also be sick or sad. All of us want to do our best, displaying our full abilities on the stage. However, sometimes we will miss some lines and forget some parts. We are not perfect. We will make mistakes and blame ourselves. Then we will restart and continue our life, doing whatever we have to do.
The best lives are lived in private.
A private life is a happy life. Seriously. The older I get, the more I’m able to appreciate the value of privacy, without the associated guilt I used to feel about implementing it. Nothing good will ever come out of everyone knowing your business. Nothing. Keep it low key. Your power lies in retaining an element of mystery. When you have a lack of self-esteem, boundaries, and give too much of yourself away, you allow others to feel like they can define you and once they do, it’s hard to feel like you can ever deviate from that definition. You can’t be defined, even though you may feel stagnant right now, you’re not biologically wired for stagnation. You’re wired for evolution. Making the decision to acknowledge, recognize, and laser-focus on your own evolution is what’s going to attract the right lovers and friends into your life. I share so much of my life and myself on social media but as far as every little detail and the ups and downs of my everyday personal life goes, I don’t need to go there. I’m very protective of who I’m dating, my family, and my friends. It doesn’t mean that I’ll never post photos of them on social media or that I’ll deny their existence and never speak of them. It just means that I value their privacy because I value and respect my own. Their stories aren’t my stories to tell and they didn’t ask to be a part of this narrative.
“Live life to the fullest because you can only live it once.”